I
spend my leisure time in reading books. Recently I read a book on “Child Psychology” . I enjoyed reading it .
But then suddenly a chapter made me think.
Rohan
is a 7 year all rounder. Recognizing his talent in boxing, his father enrolls him in a Boxing Academy
for training. He also gifts Rohan a punching bag to practice at home. Days pass
on and Rohan gets too busy with school and boxing practice. His parents give him everything that he asks
for. He hardly has any free time to
spend with his parents. He gets too tired that he can’t even concentrate on his
studies. Gradually his scores drop. As
he is unable to spend time with his parents , a relation that has to be between
them starts missing. Teachers and Parents start worrying about his education. When his parents question him or teachers confront him , Rohan silently walks
into his room closes the door behind him and starts punching the boxing bag as
long as his anger doesn’t subside. Once his anger calms down , then he becomes
normal. This becomes his routine.
Rohan couldn’t take the blame on himself for
his failure. So he starts showing his
anger on the punching Bag and takes out his frustration.
Isn’t it the same with us ???
When we fail to deliver the work we are assigned …
When we can’t
accept reality …
When we can
no more bear the burden of failure…
When we realize
that our mistake is going to cost others…
When our life is full of confusion..
When we are stuck in the middle of something very important
and unable to decide..
When we don’t know what is going on in our life…..
When we know that we are no where near our destination …
When our dreams are
shattered …
Then we
start blaming others for our failures.
We start accusing others for our situation. We take out our frustration on them. We show
our anger on them. We point our fingers
at them. We show someone else as the
reason for our failures. In a way , we choose someone as our punching bag for
that moment. Don’t we??? Yes, we do…Everyone does the same. And
most of the times our punching bags are our parents and the ones who love
us. We punch them as much as we can with
our words and actions and then try to compensate with a simple “Sorry”.
Now the question is “
Is Rohan behaving like an adult or are we behaving like Kids ?” .
We are very
comfortable using others as our punching
bags. But can we really afford to be someone’s punching bag? When we can’t take someone’s anger then how
can we show our frustrations on them ? IF
IT HURTS US…THEN IT WOULD HURT OTHERS TOO !!!
You are not a
strong person when you lift weights in the gym. You are strong and a matured
person when you take responsibility for everything you do.
Be the master of your
own emotions …not a slave !!!
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