Relation or Religion ???? What is your Choice?

                                      

                                        We never know the reason we meet certain people in our lives..  A few minutes with them will bring in a big change in the way we live and the way we think. May be we are destined to meet them so that we get a better picture about life.

                                         Few days back I have been to a hospital for a check up. I was waiting for my turn. A man in his eighties entered the hospital with a tensed look. He looked so tired.  Looking at his long white beard and white cap on his head one can easily recognize him as a Muslim. He went to the reception and asked the nurse when would the doc come.  The nurse replied that he might be there in 20 minutes and asked him to give his details to write an opt card. He told the nurse that his wife was sick and he brought her to hospital and gave her details. The nurse asked him to get her in so that she could check her B.P and temperature. But surprisingly  he said, “ She can’t sit too long in a chair. I will stay here until doctor comes and then I will bring her when you call her name” . Nurse became impatient and told him very harshly  “Bring her immediately as I have to check her B.P”. He went to bring his wife. I was watching all this and I felt “lucky is his wife who has such a caring husband”. 5 minutes later he walked in holding a woman in his arms. For a moment everyone present in the lobby were confused. The woman wore Sindoor on her forehead and she was a Hindu. I was curious to know their story. Luckily she sat beside me and nurse checked her B.P and Temperature.

                                    I smiled and asked what happened to her health.  She said her she is  Rajamma and last month she underwent a spinal cord surgery.  Because of which  she cannot sit for long time.  I asked her if the man who brought her inside,  holding her is her husband. She shyly replied “Yes”.  Observing the confusion and surprise on my face She continued “ His name is Salim. We lived in the same street. We fell in love. But  I am a Hindu and he is a Muslim. When our parents came to know about our love affair I was house arrested for 2 months. He was sent to his relatives place.  In those 2 months I was confident that our love wouldn’t fade away. I knew one day we would be together. I was emotionally blackmailed. My parents said they would either kill themselves or kill me If I ever spoke to him. He was also tortured by his relatives that Muslims should marry only Muslims and they will not spare any girl from other religion entering their family.This went on for 2 months. After that  he came to his parents house one day.  We met that evening and we only had 15 minutes in our hands to decide our future. We realized that even though there was no communication for 2 months , we still believed each other and our love only grew. And that very moment we decided “ RELATIONSHIP  BINDS TWO HEARTS..NOT RELIGION”.  So we ran from there and got married the next day. From then on families of both sides kept on cursing us every time we tried to contact them.  But all these years there was never a moment where we regretted getting married.  Our love for each other has grown day after day”. 

 I asked her “What religion do your children follow?”

She smiled and said “Love is the religion of my family” .

Just then the nurse called her in and her husband came, held her in his hands and helped her walk.  The love they had was so real. I had tears by the time she finished her story.

                                         Isn’t this a condition of many people in our society? “ United in Love But Separated by Religion”.  Honor killings, religious outrages and many more just to divide 2 people who love each other. 

                                        Why should it always be “Relation Or Religion”.

                                        Why cannot it be “Relation & Religion” ???

                                        At the end of the day only Relation gives you memories. Relation gives you happiness. Relation adds life to your living.  Religion is what you are Born into. Every religion teaches the same thing “To be Human & to love”. Then why can’t we accept people from another religion into our families?   You follow certain Religion because you are born in it. But does that mean we have to sacrifice a relation for religion??  Next time if such question arises to me  I will definitely remember this couple who taught me “ Love is also a Religion”.

                                     Let Religion guide you the way you have to live. Let Religion teach you what is good & what is Bad.  But don’t let Religion dictate and decide  your life & happiness.

                                     Remember, When you die and enter your grave “ Religion will not mourn your loss nor will it remember you.. Only Relation will” !!!!!!

Happiness alone is the key to success..............

Yesterday an old friend of mine called me after almost 6 months. His name is Ajay and we were friends since my Intermediate days. After talking to him I realized how much times have changed. Jay is an average student in college while I was a bright student. Most of the times during weekly tests and monthly tests he used to copy from my papers and walk out of the room as soon as possible. I always wondered why he has to run from exam so soon. And most of the time he didn’t even attend classes. Later he told me that he was in love with our Junior and he was busy enjoying the time with her. I being the studious one always used to scold him for wasting his time on love and not on studies. Unlike other boys of our class he never smoke nor drank. So I had a good impression on him. Well days passed so soon and Intermediate exams were over too. I cleared the exam with decent percentage while Ajay ended up failing in 2 subjects. I joined in my Bachelors degree and Ajay cleared the exams in the next supplementary. We lost contact as in those days cellphones were not still in use. In the meantime I was busy with new life and completed my bachelors degree too and got a job in Hyderabad and moved to the city with high hopes and aspirations. Not just me but many of my friends thought that I would end up being highly successful because of my academic scores and my hardworking nature. I joined my job. One day I got a call from my Intermediate friend saying that a GET TOGETHER was arranged and invited mi. went there met my old friends after many years and I met Ajay too. Jay married the girl he loved and was happily settled in Hyderabad. He said that he was working as a Manager in a Resort and drew a 6 figure salary. I felt very happy for him as he had everything that he wanted.

                             

                                Then I realized that "Success is not the key to Happiness. Instead Happiness is the key to success! Yet again 3 years passed from that day. Many things changed and above all Life turned upside down. Am now struggling with my dreams and trying hard to build my future the way I want it to. Yesterday Ajay called me. Now he is in a high post in a company and he has people working under him. He’s been blessed with a baby boy recently. He asked  me what’s going on with my life. After listening to everything about me he said, “Puppy, you were with me when I was no one. Today  I am in a good position where I can help you come out of all your problems. I will make sure you get placed in the best job. Send me your CV". I felt happy for his words as very few remember who helped them in their past.

                              But my approach towards life is different. I am not in need of a job that will give me salary to live. Am in search of a living that gives me peace of mind and happiness. As of now I am working hard to pursue my dream of establishing a old age home. I may succeed or I may not. I am doing what gives me satisfaction and I am happy doing it. Ajay did the same. He spent his time with his love instead of books. Because he was sure that he wanted that girl to be his future. The only moral is "If you want to be happy, never compare with others".

And I realized that “Just because they don’t walk in your way doesn’t mean they are not happy. Everyone has a different meaning for happiness"